In my years of experience in caring for people following death, there are three words that people wish they would have said more often: “I Love You”.
In fact during that initial shock stage, when we are dealing with the immediate deep feelings of loss, often people have said to me, “I wish I could have said, ‘I love you,’ one more time, or at least that those would have been the last words that I had said to my loved one before they died.”
We make it a practice in our family to say those words every time we say, “goodbye”, whether it is after a visit or a phone call or as we finish up on a Face Time conversation. It always ends with, “I love you” … always. (more…)