I Love You Every Day

In my years of experience, people wish they would have said more often: “I Love You”.

I-Love-you-cookiesIn my years of experience in caring for people following death, there are three words that people wish they would have said more often: “I Love You”.

In fact during that initial shock stage, when we are dealing with the immediate deep feelings of loss, often people have said to me, “I wish I could have said, ‘I love you,’ one more time, or at least that those would have been the last words that I had said to my loved one before they died.”

We make it a practice in our family to say those words every time we say, “goodbye”, whether it is after a visit or a phone call or as we finish up on a Face Time conversation. It always ends with, “I love you” … always. (more…)

I can only imagine

It played on my iPad this morning and I cried.

ICanOnlyImagineEven though it’s a powerful song of hope, it was played at my wife’s funeral. Her sister, my niece and our two daughters sang it beautifully.

Music is a very powerful medium of bringing us back to a person who has died. It seems that most people to whom I talk to about grief, conclude that there are songs that were special and bring back memories of their loved one.

Grief returns through a song. Happy and tears at the same time. (more…)