I had my second wart (since my 58 years of life) on the outside of my left pinkie toe and it slowed me down – a lot!
Today, when I tried to charge through the mall to complete my chores, I couldn’t because the wart was rubbing against the inside of my shoe. It hurt! But it forced me to walk at a normal pace. To my surprise, at the slower speed, I actually began to notice and enjoy everything around me. I really did.
Oh, how we need to live life differently and more intentionally.
It’s the same with grief. Some people believe you should plough through it as fast as possible and get to the “other side”. I personally don’t believe that’s possible or healthy – grief has a purpose that requires us to slow down.
Because, when you rush…
- You make mistakes
- You miss out on what is right in front of you that might be important
- You create anxiety in and around you
- You don’t give space for the learning
- You don’t see what is good
- You can’t reframe because you are focussed on one thing only
Better to be the tortoise than the hare. No need to rush – your grief isn’t going anywhere soon.